Child Counselling Tips
As parents, we should be careful while imposing our will on our children. If we often break the child’s will by denying their inconvenient requests, we hamper the development of their will power.
Parents should use kindness and loving guidance rather than harsh words. If parents are harsh or unkind to their children, owing to lack of patience and self-control, they prevent the loving connection from extending from their heart to the heart of the child.
Any form of harshness brings about rebellion in the child, scolding the child in front of others should be avoided. Strong, loving suggestions, and setting a good example will do more to change a child than anger or harsh words.
When a child wants something that could do no harm then it may be wise to consent. Listen to their reasons, if they are wrong, correct them, if not, let them exercise their will. Because exercising one’s will power is a wonderful feeling. It is beneficial for children to exercise their will power.
Give your child freedom– Being self- willed is not wrong, don’t discourage them. Listen to their little desires and offer suggestions based on love and understanding. Reason with them, but don’t curtail their freedom.
If they insist, don’t say anything. Let them have their own little hard knocks, if necessary. In that way, they’ll learn much sooner what is right. Try not to ask anything of your child that you can’t back with a good reason.
Quicken your child’s evolution– Children should be taught to concentrate and meditate. By practising the simple techniques of meditation, they will, from early life, develop intuitive faculties that will enable them to grasp knowledge with extraordinary quickness.
By developing intuition, you also quicken your evolution. Teach children to quicken their own evolution through meditation. Teach them to offer gratitude to God, and to practice meditation.
Excerpted from: The Essence of Clarity – Teachings of Paramhamsa Yogananda
